Finally....Rising Up And Moving On...Your Horse is Your Mirror

I've heard the phrase many times-your horse is your mirror. It took quite the emotional breakdown to really realize how much Chase does mirror me. For a bit, it seemed like we were complete opposites-I started categorizing myself between the LBE/RBE sections. While Chase is in the LBI/E quadrants. Anyways, it was actually Fran that brought me around completely this weekend. I'm extremely grateful for that-I hated the emotional roller coaster my life had become. She introduced me to the idea of 'You don't have TIME to be upset' for my left brained emotional patterns, and let me know it was alright to be Right-brained emotional about some things. My friends had told me before-but I didn't really believe them, and I don't entirely believe it now, I'd have to say. But I'm grasping the concept, which is the important part. Then there was one thing that blew my mind-I know I'm a bit of an extreme in the LBE category, but I didn't understand just how much I was, or how my personality reflected that. One of the reasons I got so emotional? I'm very defensive about preserving my dignity. Any threat to my dignity and depending on the degree of how offensive it felt to me, I stiffen up in zone one-I press my lips together (franny pointed this out to me on the car ride home), and if the situation gets worse, I become emotional. Now-flash back to what I said earlier-how your horse is your mirror? I've been trying to 'get' Chase to do things, without thinking about whether it really preserves his dignity or not. Which you think may not matter, but it means the world to him-and I realized this as Fran chastised him for moving while he was being trimmed. He took the chastising personally, and began to pout with his lips....and eventually started kicking out (franny corrected him of course)....sound familiar? ROFL! Well, anyways, that's something I need to mull over in my head. I hope you guys have a wonderful evening-my night will be spent looking for my new love-Monty Python videos