This post has almost nothing to do with Chase, although I'm sure what I learn from this realization will affect how he looks at me, as any change of thought process does. The mental/emotional growth of a person is a very important part of the journey, which is why this post exists.
A person's image to themselves is more important than most people give credit. Sure, you don't bag on yourself outright, but what about the people who are bagging on themselves without knowing it? I think one's negative tendencies towards themselves have more than one category. There are those that outright think of themselves as ugly, fat, not good enough, untalented, and the like. I used to be in this category.
But what about the people who move on from this, and instead go about changing themselves for the better? What I've realized, is this can take a negative turn. It's not the negative of the negative, but thinking 'I don't like this, change it' can translate to ourselves as 'I don't like myself.' Or 'I need to do this better' can translate to 'I'm not good enough.' The person changes what they're doing, but until they realize they're bagging on themselves, they can't take on a different perspective for learning.
What I think the next step in this chain of development, is for the person to realize their self-worth. Instead of changing themselves because they don't like where they are currently, they change because they want to be even better.
For me personally, this means changing my impression of 'I'm not good enough, I need to become good enough' to 'I'm already doing good, and I want to do better!'. It means realizing what kind of a person I am, and how much good there is in me that I took for granted or didn't pay attention to before. More on this later....I need to sift through this realization. It's so simple and obvious, but usually, the best realizations are. Nighty night folks. :)
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